Psychologist: "Are we growing a generation of real-life maladaptors? The mobile Internet distracts their attention at school"
In the context in which smartphones have become a "must-have" for any child, in the period 2010-2014, in our country, there has been an exponential growth, from 25% to 80% of the children who have an account on the online social networks, is shown in the European study Net Children Go Mobile.
The same report shows that 57% of Romanian children between the ages of 9 and 16 have a publicly-established account, even though Facebook officially prohibits their access to other European countries, where the percentage is, on average, 27%.
Psychologists believe that children's access to the Internet, from the earliest ages, can have both benefits and major disadvantages to their physical and mental development. Moreover, specialists say that the mobile internet can distract their attention at school, and the effects can be overwhelming, both on their results and on the increasingly reduced degree of socializing face to face.
Psychologist: "If online access is prohibited, today's children become aggressive"
Psychologist Maria Verdi, director of the ReCreation Life Center note that, on closer examination, this phenomenon has become more acute because we have adopted in the country the permissive northern style of growth and education.
"As a child, children have no limits, they are left to do what they want, until they become the heads of the house. There are parents who put in the hands of the child the tablet, the phone from the age of 2 years. laptops, phones. Children up to one year old are quiet when they cry, with music on the phone. At most 2 years, all parents make Facebook accounts, where they post albums with pictures. They are raised with Facebook and fed with the Internet. The online environment is the surrogate of the parent. Initially, the parent is satisfied that he has a good child, that he stays at home, plays on the Internet. In time, the child socializes more and more in real, communicates less and less with parents, he becomes an introvert. The addiction created creates conflicts in the parent-child relationship", considers psychologist Maria Verdi.
At the same time, the specialist notes that, if they are prohibited online access, today's children become aggressive. The same behavior is manifested in the school environment. "When they are already in school age, they handle the Internet with professionalism. During the hour, their mind is online, on Facebook. In the moments of inattention of the teacher or teacher, they communicate on Facebook. Ask why they do so, motivate them to get bored at We have very gifted children, Olympians, but at the same time we are witnessing a decrease in interest towards the school, the results are seen in the annual exams, in the simulations done before the exams. Increasing the percentage of childhood depression it becomes worrying. The current educational style seems to be outdated, unattractive to the young generation. Too much theory, heavy loaders, loaded, scoliosis generators and boredom, "remarked Verdi.
Psychologist: "Facebook addiction can be" cured ". The parent must be an adult in the relationship with the child, not too authoritarian or behave like the child"
Specialist Maria Verdi believes that we can "dislodge" children near Facebook or, in the worst case, we can guide them to use it moderately, for constructive purposes for them.
"Every learning has a lesson. The child needs love, security, authority. It is good to know who is a parent and who is a child in families. The parent who behaves like the child, is helpless, prays for the child, child's quarrel to leave the internet away Authoritarian parent criticizes, threatens Adult parent finds solutions to replace the excessive net with activities that generate well and creativity for the child Old behaviors are replaced with new behaviors, patience, gentleness The adult parent proposes the child to use Facebook for information when needed and helps him to reintegrate into real life, taking his time with activities in nature, sports, games, etc., "says Maria Verdi.
Decreased school performance has both medical and psychological causes
Psychotherapist Verdi emphasizes that the decline in school performance occurs in the context of physical disorders - organic pain, vitamin deficiency, minerals, or psycho-emotional disturbances. The caloric intake lower than the daily quality requirement and poor quality produces fatigue and slowness in thought and attention.
Insufficient sleep disrupts the cognitive function of the brain. The hours spent in excess on the Internet induce states of agitation and produce addiction, excessive hunger.
"The parents interested in the child keep permanently connected with the school. I go to the doctor to make sure that physically there are no worries. When a child spends a lot of time on the Internet, he feels alone. He needs communication, socialization, affection. The responsible parents bring improvements to their free time, spend quality hours with the child, eat together, find activities to involve him, make him useful, motivate him and appreciate him for the good work done, orient him towards real friends, towards nature, towards movement-sports, creativity-generating activities, personal development groups, "mentions psychologist Maria Verdi. At the same time, if the parents' proposal is rejected and conflicts arise in the parent-child relationship, the child's therapy is required, the specialist says.
"Through therapy, the child learns new behaviors, discovers his abilities, learns to socialize, expresses his emotions, to adapt more easily, to understand better, to be more affectionate, to learn to increase his self-esteem, to develop emotional intelligence ", concludes psychologist-integrative psychotherapist Maria Verdi, director of the ReCreation Life Center.
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