A perfect education involves, among other things, teaching your child to be clean and tidy at the table. Good manners during feeding are among the essential social skills that everyone must possess in order to make a good impression in society. The kindergarten, school, university and professional environment will put your little one in the situation of consuming food in public.
Here are the basic rules that your child should follow at the earliest ages when he is at the table.
The habits learned in childhood are transformed into reflexive acts at maturity, which is why parents are responsible for the correct or wrong skills of the children. If your boyfriend gets used to being clean and tidy at the table, his reputation in society will be at the level of your most ambitious expectations.
The first lessons of manners at the table
It is ideal to start the first manners lessons at the table from the first years of life, when your baby struggles to feed himself with a teaspoon. As it grows, you will be able to gradually add new elements, so that the learning process is consistent and repetitive.
You will need to remind her of the main rules periodically, until good practice turns into a healthy habit. In this way, daily exercises will turn your little one into a master of manners, as his second nature. By the age of adolescence, the child will accumulate a true collection of correct behaviors at the table, with which he will impress onlookers every time he participates in a formal event.
For the sake of the children, any family should strive to organize at least one meal a day with all members together. As soon as your puppy manages to eat alone, provide him with the dishes and utensils that adults normally use and help him learn how to use them as quickly as possible.
When he is old enough to understand, explain to him the correct place on the table of the dishes and glasses, what each one is used for and how to handle it. Young children love to be given tasks, so they are happy to sit down every night.
For starters, give them melamine plates and glasses to avoid accidents. Expect many mistakes and wrong steps, draw his attention in a gentle way, do not ridicule him and give him the necessary reason to form his skill without feeling embarrassed.
Main rules for table manners
Once the child reaches the age of 6, he is able to put into practice the main rules for good manners at the table. Here is a brief list with the indications that it is recommended to give to your educated little one:
- The hands wash well before the meal.
- The correct position on the chair is with his back straight and with his eyes on the table.
- Placing a napkin in the lap prevents staining of clothing.
- The switching from the served menu is done only after everyone has sat down at the table.
- Twisting on the chair, placing the head under the table and other movements are prohibited.
- The elbows are never held on the table, the hands rest on the edges, in the area of the wrists.
- Leaving the table is made with the request of permission.
- The gourd is always closed during chewing, and the pieces of food are cut as the ingestion capacity.
- "Please beautiful" and "Thank you" always accompany requests to receive a spice / food to which he does not have access.
- Interventions in conversations held by others are a sign of poor growth.
- Bizarre sounds, onomatopoeia and grotesque manifestations are not allowed.
- Negative comments and complaints are not polite during the meal.
- Finally, thanks to the chef for the prepared menu.
Do not get out of your mind if your little one fails to check all the rules of good behavior from the beginning. For him it can be overwhelming with so much information, so it is good to dictate them one at a time, until it turns into permanent reflexes.
Gestures forbidden at the table
Apart from the set of rules aimed at good manners at the table, it is necessary to teach your child what are those gestures forbidden in these circumstances, which many children (but also adults) commit from time to time.
- Placing the table too far from the plate favors the spread of food around; the same thing happens with "tolerance" on the chair.
- The knife is never used instead of a fork and vice versa.
- The dishes used are not licked and are not placed in a common dish, from where the rest of the family completes their individual portions.
- When trying to retrieve a bowl or other distant object, it is not polite to lean over the table; in this case, help is sought from the person who is under the "target".
- The plate is not touched with the fingers, the licking of the hands is not allowed, and the dishes are not wiped with bread.
- Soups and soups are not sipped, and the dishes are not uselessly soiled with quantities of food and drink that will not be consumed.
- It does not speak with full mouth, it does not gesture with the cutlery and it does not spit the seeds and bones in the plate or in the hand; the remains are placed discreetly in the spoon or on a napkin.
- Do not handle the dishes and food of other people at the table.
The behavior of children after the meal
By the time you become a complete food consumer, your (very small) child will get dirty on the sleeves. For this reason, his behavior after the meal is just as important from the point of view of the good manners that he is ideal to learn as soon as possible.
So, ask your puppy to always wash their hands after eating, if you do not want to find fingerprints on the furniture and walls. Also pay attention to the behavior that the little boy observes to others, because children tend to imitate the gestures of older siblings and parents. Many moms complain that their little ones have "learned" from their dads or cousins to regurgitate loudly.
All you have to do is to hold those who set a negative example to account and impose certain limits on the child's behavior, permanently encouraging positive behavior. At the same time, it is important to practice what you preach well, otherwise the chances of your baby being clean and tidy at the table are very small.
The children's table manners are transformed into a lifestyle, for which your puppy will satisfy you at adulthood.
How did you teach your little one to be clean and tidy at the table? Tell us in the comments section!